From the book: The Jeshua channeled by Pamela Kribbe (healing series):
In the last stage of this history, men clearly played the role of perpetrator and oppressor.
But it was not always so. There have been times in which the woman was much more powerful
in the public as well as the private domain of life. She oppressed the male energy
as well in cruel and sadistic ways.
Woman is not naturally the oppressed or subdued sex, you know, nor is she by definition
the most loving sex. Your stereotypes of women as sweet but powerless and of men as tough
but insensitive say more about the last phase of the above mentioned history than about
men and women as such.
There have been times predating written history in which matriarchal societies were regarded as standard.
In those times women also used their energies in a destructive way, being disrespectful of the
individual life force and creativity in each human being. There was a time when women had power over men.
Women controlled and manipulated men by using the powers of emotion and intuition that they have a natural
affinity with. They also used their psychic abilities to control men. For example there were sacrifices
and rituals where men were tortured and killed.
I want to stress for your official history that this aspect draws a one sided picture of the relation
between men and women. The oppression of woman by man has been evident for the whole period covered
by your written history. But the grudge and hatred that men have displayed (and may still display)
against women has not come from nothing. In addition to the cultural traditions and habits that
influence them, there are also deep emotional wounds in the collective male soul
that stem from a much older era. ...
Within the collective male, soul hatred and resentment had arisen because of this
ancient history. This has come out in oppression of the female energy...
Male sexuality was at that time considered to be an instrument for procreation without respect
for the feeling side of men and the emotional ties between a father and his children. Often children
were raised by the mother in separation from the father and hardly any attention was paid to what the father
thought and wanted. Important values were passed on through the mother figure and the inferiority of men was
one such value. Man was a workhorse rather than an equal partner.
I speak of this ancient history because I would like to make clear that in the “battle of the sexes”
there are ultimately no "offenders and victims", no "good guys and bad guys", because you all have
been both. It has been a struggle between the male and the female energies in which these energies
became opposites, whereas they originally were complementary to each other. In this day and age both
men and women are invited to join forces again and to rediscover the joy and honor of the original
dance of female and male.
Essentially the female energy is leading and inspiring while the male energy is serving and protecting.
The female energy is the inspiration behind any creation; the male aspect takes care of the manifestation
in form and action. Both energies work through every human, through every individual, whether male or female.
Whether you are a man or a woman is not really relevant; it is the balance and relationship between both
energies within you that counts.
Blockages in female sexuality
I will now speak of energy blockages in the area of sexuality which specifically apply to women or men.
In women, it is the area of the first and second chakra (tail bone and umbilicus) that is most battered
and hurt as a result of sexual oppression and violence over the centuries. For quite some millennia women
have been framed into a subservient role in almost all areas of society and this still goes for many places
on earth. With regard to sexuality, this inequality manifested as rape, assault and humiliation on a large scale.
As a result of this many women, indeed the collective female soul, have suffered incredibly. There are deep
emotional wounds which need time, love and utmost care to heal.
Often the drive for sexual union is felt by women as a longing of the heart or as a spiritual feeling.
But when they get physically intimate they may find that they cannot express their sexual energy freely
because of energy blockages in the first and second chakra. In those energy centers there are (soul) memories of sexuality
that was forced upon them and humiliated them. These experiences were so painful that the woman withdrew her energy,
her consciousness from the area of the belly. When this part of the body is now approached again in a sexual way,
the muscles instinctively tighten or the emotional body automatically signals resistance. The physical cells are
aware of the trauma and do not go along so easily with the invitation to dance. They want to shut off and create a barrier
to protect you from more aggression. This reaction is utterly understandable and should always be dealt with in a most
respectful way. Using any kind of force to take away the resistance is in a way violating the hurt centers again.
When you have these emotions as a woman, it is very important to become fully aware of them; there may be anger there,
resistance or fear with regard to physical intimacy. And all of these emotions are often older than the relationship you are in,
older even than this lifetime. There may be very old traumas in those lowest chakras that have caused deep emotional scars.
Specifically I would advise women who recognize this pain to get acquainted with
life times in which they (women) were the offender/perpetrator (as opposed to victim)...
- get in touch with the “energy of the offender or powerful woman” inside you. This may sound very strange but the reason is this.
When you have been the victim of sexual violence this has caused a lot of anger in your energy field... This anger blocks you and
keeps you imprisoned in a feeling of powerlessness and victimhood. To release anger you need understanding. You need to understand
why and what for; you need to see the larger picture. When you can imagine yourself as a powerful woman who could be merciless and
cruel towards men and feel inside that this is also a part of you, then the anger can dissolve. A more thoroughgoing understanding
can arise, an inside knowing that you are part of a larger karmic story in which you played both the role of offender and of victim.
It is nearly impossible to release your emotions of pain, powerlessness and victimhood without also looking at
the other side of you, the “dark side”.
You can also become more aware of it by watching yourself in your day-to-day life. When you feel this energy
(e.g. the will to exert power or hurt others), you can sense that you have not only been the helpless victim of outside circumstances.
There is a karmic tie between offender and victim; both roles reflect aspects of yourself.
As soon as you know and accept your dark side, you can look at your own inner wounds in a different way and start to forgive.
When there is understanding, anger can dissolve and you can get in touch with the layers of emotions beneath: the sadness, the grief,
the pain that is there on many levels, also in the body itself.
It is very important for women to acknowledge the offender aspect in themselves and to work with it. When there is hatred and grudges
in you with regard to sexuality, realize that the more hatred and anger you feel, the more you identify with the role of victim and
the more you rob yourself of your freedom. Try to feel inside you that in the arena of sexuality a karmic game is being played out in
which you have fulfilled both roles, the good guy as well as the bad guy. From there you can get to a place of forgiveness – forgiving
yourself as well as someone else. Things happen for a reason. Acts of violence and repression may seem meaningless, but there is always
a story behind them. And whenever there is sexual violence involved it leaves deep impressions on all four levels of the human being.
Blockages in male sexuality
With regard to the male experience of sexuality, the blockages that occur are mostly on the level of the heart or the head. At these
levels there may be a fear of surrendering, a fear of deep emotional intimacy. Most of the time this fear reaches farther back than
you can remember. It relates to the era in which women dominated men. This made the game of sexual attraction, that initially was
innocent and spontaneous, threatening. Men learned that it was dangerous to openly show their emotions and open their heart to their partner.
Within men there are deep seated fears about surrendering to their feeling side, and these fears need not necessarily manifest on the
physical level. They may participate in the physical act of sex while keeping their feelings separate. So the man may be sexually present
at the physical level while his feeling nature is (partially) absent. His emotions are locked away because of his fear to open up and become
vulnerable to rejection once again. There are old soul remembrances there of being abandoned and emotionally scarred.
Patience and love
In general the energy blockages are somewhat different in men and women. Therefore it is very important to communicate openly with
each other about what you feel and sense when you are together. When you truly trust your partner, you can investigate without shame where
your sexual energy gets stuck when you are intimate. This you can do by simply becoming aware, when there is a flow of excitement and intimacy
arising between you, to what extent you are allowing yourself to feel and express it. See if you feel stuck or blocked in any part of your
body or in any part of your emotions and feelings. Do you feel a warm glow in your heart when you are together? Do you feel a spiritual openness
towards the other? Are you prepared to meet the other in his or her totality?
It sounds strange but you are afraid of real intimacy. You all strongly desire a fulfilling relationship. On the streets almost every billboard
refers to the ideal of an emotionally and sexually gratifying relationship. But true intimacy frightens you. When someone else comes very close
and you are asked to take off all your masks, all kinds of inhibitions arise that you were not aware of. In the moments that they surface try not
to judge yourself for it. Instead see it is an opportunity to investigate those inhibitions and blockages within you. No one is free of them.
Nearly all people have blockages that prevent them from experiencing sexuality in the full sense that I described in the beginning. That is why
I want to ask you all to look at the flow of sexual energy inside you with loving awareness – whether you are alone or in a relationship – and to
treat those blockages you find with care and respect. Force is the worst counselor in these matters. Patience and love are vital.
Keep the longing for a true and complete experience of sexuality alive! You need not throw away the baby with the bath water. The desire is sound.
The road to a full and joyful experience of sexuality may be long and winding. But along the road you will grow love and compassion for yourself
as well as for others, and this is so immensely valuable in your human world.
You are healing an ancient history of struggle between men and women. The male and female energies want to come together again and join in a dance
of joy and creativity. Anything that you contribute to this at an individual level has a positive influence on the collective soul of men and women...